Is forgiving someone for their wrong toward you easy? For most of us truly forgiving others who has hurt us is extremely difficult, especially if they have not asked for forgiveness. Yet it is what God desires and it will have an impact on your life. Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice for each of us and His death and resurrection makes our offering of forgiveness easy.
An example in my life that happened some years ago is when a business partner hurt my wife and me very deeply. Below are parts of emails that were sent.
My Email to My Business Partner
I pray you are doing well. I would like to share where God has taken me in this journey. Ever since our meeting at your home I have not been at peace. The impact of that meeting has led to resentment on my part toward you. God has reminded me that he calls all his children to love one another and I am afraid I have failed. My thoughts have not brought Him glory. Every other Monday night we have a prayer group at our house. Tonight someone read Ephesians 4:1-6 and I am pretty sure God intended those words for me.
As a prisoner of the Lord, then I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one spirit – just as you were called to one hope when you were called – one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.
As I sat there letting that verse run through my mind I thought of the following verses:
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
I remembered a Bible study video where a business man assisted his competitor in fixing a reoccurring product problem. His selflessness with his willingness to help his competitor sell more products and his devotion to honor God had an impact on my life. My desire is to honor God and bring Him glory in my actions toward you. I am willing and am eager not only to give you the sites but also to help you point them to any sites you desire. I ask nothing in return.
Partner’s Email Response
Thanks for your prayers, humility and forgiveness. I would like to take you up on your unselfish offer.
Throughout your life, others may hurt you. It may be no fault of your own. Your pain may be the result of another person’s sin or it could be Satan using that person to hurt you or a combination of both.
When you are hurt, you want the other to admit they have done wrong, to say I am sorry, and to ask for forgiveness. Often times an admission of guilt does not come. If there is no admittance, you may want to take the matter into your own hands. What would God want you to do? My desire was simply to honor Him and let Him worry about the outcome. Think about this, I could either surrender to my natural thoughts or surrender to His will. Forgiving others is a place where enormous joy and peace can enter your life if you handle it God’s way.